Over the last seven years, keepers have learned three lessons that have changed our lives.  First, we have learned that what keepers think strongly affects what happens as we move from day to day.  Second, we have learned that what keepers put out there in the world is exactly what comes back to us in one way or another.  And, third, keepers have learned that there are times when we have to really look for the good things that fill our lives.  Even when it seems like there are none, those good and wonderful parts of life are always there waiting for keepers to acknowledge their presence.  Mostly, keepers do pretty well with remembering each of these new lessons and with allowing them to guide us in all we think and do.

But, when keepers go through an extended period of time where one difficult thing after another arises for us to deal with and ultimately survive, our system of alters very readily seems to jump track and slip back into old thought patterns and beliefs.  One by one, our focus seems to turn from all the blessings we have to all that has gone wrong and all that we are lacking.  Each day that passes seems to draw keepers back into the way our lives SHOULD be and how far off course keepers managed to get.  The truth is that it is easy for keepers to veer away from our new lessons learned and things like our yoga that keep our system thriving most of the time.  Because it is so easy for us to do, it often happens without our noticing and we find ourselves deep in hopelessness and despair much like we once felt constantly.

The last nine months have been extremely taxing for keepers.  A lot of what has happened has already been blogged about so we will choose to not go there again.  Suffice it to say that  this has been a period of time when keepers have been losing strength at a phenomenal rate and giving away power that we should always maintain within our system.  For months now, keepers have been sinking more and more into the way life used to be for us while forgetting to see the beauty and wonder of our lives in today.

When keepers stop and sit back to think about life for us in today–we have to remember to accentuate the positive.  When we stop and look at the positive in our lives, keepers realize how incredibly blessed each one of us really is.  The positives in keepers lives far outweigh the negatives.  For us, the balance of power comes when we let go of the negatives and focus on accentuating the positives.

The greatest positive keepers have is our relationships with our John Michael.  He cares so much about us and always tries to understand what we are going through.  Our family ceremony on September 1 has made this relationship between JM and keepers even more precious.  He is amazed at how much our little keepers have begun thriving since they finally see themselves as part of a family.

Another positive is that our little keepers have friendships of their own with young alters in other systems.  I see these as friendships but our little keepers see some of these other alters as their true brothers and sisters.  This is an experience that I never thought our little keepers would have in life.  Instead of grieving those who saw our littles as not good enough, keepers are remembering now to focus on those relationships where there is mutual caring and fellowship which is such an incredible positive for our little keepers.

Another positive that keepers need to accentuate in our lives is our ever precious relationships with women all over the world who are such awesome human beings.  Keepers see one of these wonderful women as an aunt to our littles.  Others we see as sisters who are sharing our journey with us.  And, there is one that keepers see as our beautiful cyber daughter who has brought so much joy into our lives.  Each one of these women has brought so much to keepers.  They have been the people who have taught keepers what it really means to be a woman.  And they have also been the ones that let keepers know what we have to offer in a relationship has  value to some people out there.  When keepers begin to sink back into old ways, we are going to try very hard to remember the incredible women who have come into our lives and walk the healing journey with us each and every day.

For keepers, accentuating the positive is not always easy to do.  Sometimes, we get in our own way of doing that simply by allowing old tapes to resurface and begin playing at full volume while letting the new lessons slip into silence.  It takes a lot of work for keepers to make the new lessons louder than the old tapes but the work is so worth it.  It is when keepers remember to accentuate the positive that we are able to thrive and really feel the joy of being alive.

For keepers, there is a lightness to life.  There is a freedom in breathing deeply.  There is such joy in letting the negatives go.  There is power in trusting our own perceptions.  But, even more than all of that, there is a balance in being able to remember to accentuate the positive.

I hope this blog makes sense on some level because keepers wrote it without stopping to read what we were writing.  We needed to let the words flow without really thinking about them.

peace and blessings,

keepers